If it’s not something you’re into, and it’s between two consenting adults, then I don’t see why it’s our business. I could explain what a kink is or do some psychosexual analysis on why some men are into “daddies,” but I think all that would accomplish is bringing us both five minutes closer to our last breaths on earth. I suppose I’m not sure what you want me to do here. I’m sorry, but given the context of your letter, I have to begin with the assertion that being in your mid-20s makes you a “young gay.” It’s certainly not ripe old age, but my brother in Christ, you can walk to Enterprise and rent a Subaru. What are your two cents on this? Am I being prejudiced against relationships with large age gaps? Maybe it’s not always like that, and those are just bad examples in which a line is crossed. So when I see father-son style bonding between men being fetishized, for me it comes off as weird and uncomfortable.įor what it’s worth, of the erotic stories I mentioned earlier, they seem to involve a relationship between a teenager or early twenty-something and a man who’s at least in his late thirties, if not forties. Furthermore, I’d like to think we’re equals, and that I’m not an authority figure to him or vice versa. Personally, I like to think of a potential boyfriend as being someone around my age who, romantic feelings aside, is like my best friend or brother, not my father. At the same time, I know it’s probably more nuanced than that, and there must be a way to go about doing it consensually. It seems to me like this is a toxic power dynamic that can lead to abuse or sexual exploitation. I looked into it further, and apparently some young gay men get off on the idea of an older boyfriend who acts as a mentor and father figure.
I’ve encountered this in a few online erotic stories I’ve read recently. Justice Wilson will sentence White on Tuesday.I’m a young gay in his mid-20s, and I was wondering: What is it with the kink some gay guys have for daddies? “I don’t wish Mr White suffering, I do hope that Mr White be met with justice for the 33 years, four months, 22 days and counting since he took my brother’s life,” she said. Mr Johnson’s sister Rebecca questioned how White could have been allowed to get away with thinking that violence and even killing was OK and maybe that gay men weren’t human”. “What my husband’s family has endured as a result of the police’s early and ongoing failure to investigate Scott’s death is indefensible and inhumane and resulted in years of pain,” she told the court. The investigation into Mr Johnson’s death, which was initially treated as a suicide by police and led to multiple inquests and public campaigns for justice, was criticised by his family members, including sister-in-law Rosemarie Johnson. “It’s an indelible image that is burned into the brain.” “No one can imagine what it was like to be shown his lifeless and very badly damaged body,” Mr Noone said. Michael Noone said not a day goes by where he does not hear Scott Johnson’s voice. He agreed that he was concerned about people finding out he was gay because of the general outlook on gay people in the 1980s.”
“He asks about a number of times if this was going to go back to his brother about being gay and he talked to the police how it was he would meet people in that context, meet other men. “He says that the community at that time did not have a good attitude towards gay people. “It wasn’t referred to as a gay beat, he did say a lot of gays come up here,” Ms Rigg said. Ms Rigg told the court White now identified as gay and had told police he went, at Mr Johnson’s suggestion, to North Head on the night of his death. Under cross-examination from White’s barrister Belinda Rigg, Mrs White denied allegations that she lied about those conversations or being motivated by a $1m reward police had offered anyone with information about Mr Johnson’s death.Ĭrown prosecutor Brett Hatfield said Mrs White wrote an anonymous letter to police about White and never mentioned the reward in conversations with police.